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04.01.26
Blog #33— Make A Good First Impression
Tips for Subs to Stand Out!
Have A Domme Crush? Here is how to make a great first impression!
Dommes receive dozens of dm’s, emails, and inquiries a day.
In order to attract the attention of a high profile Dominatrix, you must go above and beyond. Here is how:
Don’t. Waste. Her. Time.
Before contacting a Dominatrix, make sure you both have kinks in common. Look over their list of interests and hard limits, and make sure you two align.
Do not spam her socials or her dm’s or emails, with a million questions that are likely already answered on her website, application form, or tryst ad.
Do not make big promises you cannot keep. Be realistic with yourself and grounded in reality. For example, be realistic about your budget, and time availability.
Do not be flakey or vaugue. Sending a dm that just says “hi” or “peg me” is a SURE way to get yourself blocked. WHAT do you possibly expect me to say to that bullshit, low effort, half-ass greeting?!
Stand OUT & Take Initiative
Make sure you do your research. Read their website thoroughly. Understand what the Domme values and enjoys.
Subscribe to her fansites, and engage with her content respectfully with compliments and tips.
Send the Domme tribute or buy something off their wishlist FIRST before emailing or dm’ing. THIS alone will go a LONG way. Even $25 gift will set you a part from the majority.
Don’t expect a Domme to control and tell you what to do, before you’ve given the Dominatrix anything FIRST. No freebies from ProDommes.
Respect The Pro Domme
Only speak to a Domme with their desired honorific. For example, my honorifics are Mistrix, Mistress, and Daddy (if you’re lucky). Calling me “goddess or sunmi” is INCREDIBLY rude and I will block subs who do not respect my honorifics.
Speak with clear intentions. Don’t play mind games or try to manipulate punishments from a Domme. I do not TAME brats - let alone for free.
When you do approach a Domme, first send tribute/gift.
Then send a respectful message with:
1. Introduce yourself (like name, age, city you live, kink interests (keep it concise).
2. State what you are looking for. (eg., social dinner, custom clip, session).
3. Be transparent about budget, expectations and/or desires.
4. If a domme directs you to apply to her form, then do so without a million questions first. OR offer to pay for a scheduled phone call to get your questions answered.
©MistrixSunmi 2026
©MistrixSunmi 2026