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01.05.26

Blog #30— How To Be A Good Submissive


Every Domme has different opinions - this is Mine. 


So You Wish to Be a Good Toy?


If you’re reading this blog post than you’re already off to a good start.
Good girl.

Did that make you feel something? Maybe a spark of excitement. Maybe you crave my praise, my approval, my attention. That hunger is delicious—and very sexy submissive behavior.

What Makes a Good Submissive?


Every Domme defines a “good submissive” differently. This post outlines what I personally look for in good boys, toys, girls, and sluts who want my attention and my time.

If you want to serve me, read carefully.

New Submissives


Looking for a new Mistress? Found me and want to make a strong first impression?

Do your research.

Read my website. Read my blogs. Follow all of my social media accounts FOUND HERE. Subscribe to my fan sites. Watch my clips. When—and if—you reach out, you will always address me properly: Mistrix Sunmi.


Do NOT:

  • Spam my DMs or email
  • Approach me with nothing meaningful to say
  • Send unsolicited pictures
  • Beg me to dominate you without offering anything in return

If you feel entitled to my time, attention, or energy, go find someone else.

IRL Play Submissives


Good submissives apply for in-person play using the application form on my website HERE.

Good toys:
  • Send screening information clearly and completely
  • Provide references (emails, dates, websites of previous Dommes)
  • Offer clear availability (three date options is ideal)
  • Send deposits and Signal info promptly

Good submissives have done the inner work. They can articulate their desires, medical needs, and soft/hard limits clearly—or they communicate honestly if they’re newer to kink and still exploring.

Good subs:
  • Arrive on time
  • Are freshly showered, clean, teeth brushed
  • Are anally prepped (if applicable)
  • Are respectful at all times
  • Touch only when permitted
  • Follow instructions
  • Are open, eager, and curious
  • Use their safewords

If you need help prepping for anal play, read my previous blog post HERE.

Virtual Submissives


If you want to build a connection with me online, you will serve me virtually.

You may schedule virtual video calls with me HERE.

Otherwise, good toys:
  • Follow me on all social media platforms
  • Lifetime subscribe to ServeSunmiFilms.com and binge my content
  • Send gifts from my wishlist HERE
  • Tribute regularly—even small gestures matter like treating me to my $5 lates for example.

Virtual submissives must go above and beyond. I have hundreds of followers who want to submit to me. If you truly want a D/s dynamic online, you must stand out.

Gifts. Tributes via Zelle/Venmo. Booking virtual sessions.

Those are the best ways to build a real connection with me.

So don’t be shy.
Show me how good you can be. 
©MistrixSunmi 2025

©MistrixSunmi 2025