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12.03.21

Blog #3 — Wh*re Realities 


AVN demonetizing & my reflections on the realities of being a professional dominatrix navigating the digital sphere.


11.02.21

Blog #2 — Playing with Gender


Deep dive into what it means (to me) to be a femme daddy. How I gender-play with respect to the trans community, & how I gender-play with my diverse clientele. 


10.11.21

Blog #1 — The Humble Beginnings Of My Cash Fetish


An exploration into some of my kink roots... this particular story marks when I realized cash turned me on.






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12.18.24

Blog #19— Domme Mentorship


All things about domme mentorship & kink education. 


I began my journey into Domme mentorship as a mentee in 2019, under the guidance of the incomparable Mistress Lina Lavender. I was fortunate to receive mentorship from Mistress Lavender, whose teachings spanned industry safety, the technical skills of domination, and the profound emotional connections that exist between Mistress and submissive. Their generosity in taking me under their wing is something I will always be deeply grateful for. This experience has fostered within me a strong desire to pass on the knowledge and wisdom I have gained, and to mentor others in turn.

It is with great pleasure that I announce Domina Delphi as my first Domme mentee. I have had the privilege of knowing her for nearly five years, and I am thrilled to offer her guidance and support as she embarks on her own journey in this work. Domina Delphi has a natural aptitude for power exchange, and I am excited to help her harness and cultivate her innate strength, allowing her to fully bloom into her power.

In our community, there is no formalized system for BDSM or sex work education. Rather, it is a sacred practice that relies on the transfer of life-saving knowledge between trusted individuals. I hold the traditions of the Leather community and Domme mentorship in high regard. Earning one’s leathers is a significant achievement—one that signifies a commitment to ongoing education, the principles of consent and safety, and the responsible channeling of sacred sexual power.

It is a true honor to pass on the insights I have acquired to a new generation of practitioners. I hope that this marks the beginning of many such mentorships. In the meantime, I invite you to support Domina Delphi and to consider joining us for our Double Domme Training sessions. You can sign up for more information and to participate HERE.




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09.20.24

Blog #18— Locktober & All Things Chastity


A deep dive into chastity training & my personalized Locktober Program. 

Locktober is a fantastic opportunity for anyone curious about extended chastity play. However, it’s not for the faint of heart. Those who commit to a full month of chastity often attest to the challenges and benefits that come with it. In this post, I’ll explore the pros and cons of chastity, along with my personalized Locktober training program to guide you through this journey.

The Pros of Chastity


On the surface, handing over the key to your cage is an intense act of erotic surrender, submission, and trust. But on a deeper level, it represents a commitment to both psychological and physical denial. The weight of the cage serves as a constant reminder of the power you’ve surrendered to your keyholder.

From my experience, chastity can enhance a submissive's connection to their body & their dominant. The denial often leads to increased productivity, allowing you to focus on work and other goals rather than getting lost in cycles of instant gratification. Many find that the cage heightens desires, turning them on while postponing climax, which can deepen your devotion and connection to your dominant.

The Cons of Chastity


However, Locktober isn’t without its challenges. Long-distance chastity can become a logistical nightmare if not approached thoughtfully. One key aspect is managing expectations. It’s easy to fall into the fantasy of being locked all month and underestimate the complexities involved.

Chastity cages require regular maintenance for health reasons. Cleaning is crucial to avoid issues like blisters, which can form during extended wear. Bathroom breaks can be particularly tricky, especially for submissives wearing chastity belts, necessitating more on/off time for hygiene. Other potential challenges include wearing cages during exercise, work, or navigating relationship commitments, as well as dealing with ill-fitting cages that can cause pinching or sores.

My Personalized Locktober Program


This Locktober, I’m excited to offer a personalized chastity training program for $1,200. Here’s what you can expect:
  • Initial Consultation: We’ll have a video call to discuss your chastity cage, key options (i.e., sending me a key, and you keeping a key for maintenance/emergencies), accountability, expectations, and logistics for the month ahead.
  • Daily Check-Ins: Stay motivated with daily updates on your progress.
  • Weekly Assignments: Receive tasks designed to enhance your experience.
  • Weekly Video Call Sessions: At the end of each week, we’ll check in on your progress, make necessary cage adjustments, discuss hygiene and health, and explore the emotional effects of your journey.

My goal is to help you maximize the benefits of chastity while minimizing potential roadblocks. With sustainability in mind, now is the perfect time to challenge yourself and embrace something new.

Interested? Grab your cages & schedule your initial consultation by emailing me at Serve.Sunmi@gmail.com. Let’s make this Locktober unforgettable!




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08.14.24

Blog #17 — The Art of Surrender: Finding Catharsis Through Bondage


Surrender is an art that is often easier said than done.


In my professional practice, I frequently encounter individuals seeking catharsis—a profound sense of release or relief from their burdens. Catharsis can manifest in various ways, and for many of my submissives, the journey toward it is deeply personal and multifaceted.

For some, the catharsis they seek is emotional. These individuals might be grappling with stress from work, guilt about their desires, or feelings of loneliness. Their quest for relief is often an attempt to reconcile these emotions and find peace.

Others are drawn to the physical aspect of catharsis. They crave the sensation of being drained, grounded, or experiencing an intense, out-of-body pleasure. For them, the physicality of bondage offers a unique form of liberation and release.

Then there are those who seek mental catharsis. They may be overwhelmed by a relentless inner voice, anxiety about their behavior, or constant worry about whether they're saying the right things. For these individuals, bondage serves as a means to quiet the mind and find clarity.

The beauty of bondage lies in its ability to facilitate these various forms of catharsis. As a dominant, I view bondage not just as a practice, but as an extension of myself—my touch, my connection to my submissives during our sessions.

In my approach to dominance, bondage becomes a powerful form of communication. It speaks to the submissive’s body and mind in ways that words alone cannot. My bondage tells a story:
  • “Your wrists will remain bound behind your back until I choose to release you.” This is a declaration of control and trust.
  • “You will not close your legs; this is exactly how I want you.” It is a statement of precise intention, hungry desire and unwavering authority.
  • “Your only task is to surrender, to give in, and to obey.” It emphasizes the act of letting go and yielding to the experience.
  • “Here is your body; I will support you even when you are exhausted from holding yourself.” It is an assurance of safety and care, even in moments of vulnerability.

In essence, bondage offers a structured environment where the submissive can explore their deepest desires and find the catharsis they so deeply deserve. Through the art of surrender, they can achieve a profound sense of release and connection, facilitated by my intuitive skillful touch and control.

For those seeking to understand or explore this dynamic, remember that surrender is not simply about relinquishing control; it’s about finding a space where you can truly be yourself and experience the profound relief that comes with it.




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05.25.24

Blog #16 — DC to NYC


I am moving to NYC July 2024!



Big news! I am moving to NYC, where I will be relocating My business in July. That means if you’re in DC and you wish to submit to Me, you must apply and act soon. I have spots open this week, and lots of openings in June. I will be accepting NYC pre bookings for Mid-July pre-booking. As it stands right now I will be closing My DC dungeon, and I do not currently plan on opening up My own dungeon in NYC. I will be playing in the lovely dungeons available throughout the city.

If you are based in the DMV / DC and you have been yearning to feel My dominant hands on your skin, act now!!


If you are based in the DMV and you have been fantasizing about submitting to Me, now is your best chance. I am offering a SUPER rare one of kind DISCOUNT CODE for new submissives. So if we have never played before, and you apply to serve using the CODE: DCSUB under the “What are your desires for the session” than you will get 20% OFF your first session. For a 2hr session this means $200 OFF. My books are open for now - end of June.

Apply HERE.

& of course, I will still plan to come back and tour regularly to see all of My favorite regulars and newbies about once a month or every other month.

As for My NYC subs:


I have been keeping you all waiting long enough. I am finally not only coming back, but here to stay. My NYC books are open for pre-booking NOW. Starting July 15th. Double domme sessions with Empress Wu are also available starting 7/15. I cannot wait to begin and deepen My relationships with My NYC submissives.

Send your congratulations & make yourself USEFUL & fund My relocation by sending donations to:


My v3nmo “inyourdreams” or sending z3lle to “serve.sunmi@gmail.com”.

Thank you all for the support! Apply to play at Mistrix Sunmi dot com. Email Me: serve.sunmi@gmail for further questions.

Xo,
Mistrix Sunmi
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