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12.03.21

Blog #3 — Wh*re Realities 


AVN demonetizing & my reflections on the realities of being a professional dominatrix navigating the digital sphere.


11.02.21

Blog #2 — Playing with Gender


Deep dive into what it means (to me) to be a femme daddy. How I gender-play with respect to the trans community, & how I gender-play with my diverse clientele. 


10.11.21

Blog #1 — The Humble Beginnings Of My Cash Fetish


An exploration into some of my kink roots... this particular story marks when I realized cash turned me on.






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03.27.25

Blog #20— What Sets Me Apart From The Rest?


Sooo many dommes to choose from, why book Mistrix Sunmi? Here’s why.



I was recently told I don’t brag enough, and you know what? Maybe they’re right. So let me break it down for you. When you’re looking to invest in a new domme, it’s a big decision—intimate, expensive, and vulnerable. But here’s the thing: while there are plenty of amazing, ethical, and beautiful dommes out there, what sets ME, Mistrix Sunmi, apart from the rest?

It all comes down to expertise, chemistry and compatibility. Finding the right domme can sometimes feel like searching for a needle in a haystack. Trust me, I get it—because I feel the same way when I’m seeking subs to invest myself into. It’s about a connection that goes beyond the physical—something deeper, more personal, and absolutely irresistible.

So, what makes me different? Well, let’s start with my accomplishments and credentials.

From Passion to Profession:


I didn’t start out as a professional; I began as a lifestyle domme, driven by a genuine love for domination. It’s a passion that’s been with me for as long as I can remember—and I’d be dominating, whether money was involved or not. But when I decided to go pro, I wanted to do it right. So, I trained under Mistress Lina Lavender in 2019, a one-on-one mentorship that took me from the basics to advanced techniques like medfet, sissification, verbal humiliation, and much more. As a leather dyke, my experiences both in my personal and professional life have led to mastery of deepening erotic pleasure for folks of all genders and body types across the gender spectrum. 

Psychology Meets Domination:


Since then, I’ve earned a Master’s degree in Psychology, a second degree that allows me to connect with my subs on a deeper level. This isn’t just about pleasure—it’s about guiding you through your submissive healing journey, helping you access pleasure like never before, and creating a space where you can truly embody your desires in a safe, profound way. This may be one reason why, several prodommes have hired me to help aid in their own pleasure journeys in a safe, non-judgemental, completely private space. 

I believe that understanding the mind is just as important as understanding the body. By combining my psychology background with my domination skills, I create an experience that goes beyond just a scene—it’s a journey of transformation.

What sets me apart?


It’s my unwavering commitment to the craft and to you. I’ve spent years training, learning, and honing my skills, both inside the dungeon and outside of it. And it’s this combination of technical expertise, psychological insight, and genuine passion that allows me to create an experience that is truly one of a kind.

I’ve since taught numerous classes on topics I have mastered such as advanced needling/piercing play, connection to strap-on, sounding, building erotic ritual, single tail whipping and more. I also just completed my first ever domme mentee training program, where I passed on my knowledge on a one on one mentorship. As a life long learner in BDSM, I myself regularly attend BDSM classes, and hire professionals for one on one lessons. For example, in this past year I’ve had private lessons on erotic hypnosis and rope bondage from experts in the feild. 

So, if you’re looking for someone who’s not just a pretty face or a well-trained domme, but someone who can connect with you on every level—physically, mentally, and emotionally—then maybe we should see if the chemistry is right.

Will we have sexual chemistry?


Lets play a quick game - I’ll describe my style of domination and how I run things. If this turns you on, then we both win. 

I expect full submission, and I accept nothing less. You hold a power within you. You surrender that power over to me, and I gladly take it with a seductive smile. I know how to wield your power against you. I’m aggressive. Hands on. Your autonomy leaves the second you walk through my door. You are prey, and I am an apex predator. I am muscular yet soft. I like my subs on their knees. Shaking, nervously for my touch. I gaze into your eyes, and I see right through you. I spread your legs. I invade your personal space with ease. I am rough, and I don’t hold back. Skillfully I always restrain you with careful consideration. I take your breath away, and I like it. I want more, so I take it. Hyper Focused, I notice your every wince, whimper, & moan. I feed off of you. My pleasure first. I love high fantasy - dark, perverted role plays, filthy sluts, suffering pain, erotic anticipation, psychological molding, intimate humiliation, and selfless worship - I am hedonistic. Lustful. I want it all. Now. And you can’t resist.

This is your sign (apply here). 






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12.18.24

Blog #19— Domme Mentorship


All things about domme mentorship & kink education. 


I began my journey into Domme mentorship as a mentee in 2019, under the guidance of the incomparable Mistress Lina Lavender. I was fortunate to receive mentorship from Mistress Lavender, whose teachings spanned industry safety, the technical skills of domination, and the profound emotional connections that exist between Mistress and submissive. Their generosity in taking me under their wing is something I will always be deeply grateful for. This experience has fostered within me a strong desire to pass on the knowledge and wisdom I have gained, and to mentor others in turn.

It is with great pleasure that I announce Domina Delphi as my first Domme mentee. I have had the privilege of knowing her for nearly five years, and I am thrilled to offer her guidance and support as she embarks on her own journey in this work. Domina Delphi has a natural aptitude for power exchange, and I am excited to help her harness and cultivate her innate strength, allowing her to fully bloom into her power.

In our community, there is no formalized system for BDSM or sex work education. Rather, it is a sacred practice that relies on the transfer of life-saving knowledge between trusted individuals. I hold the traditions of the Leather community and Domme mentorship in high regard. Earning one’s leathers is a significant achievement—one that signifies a commitment to ongoing education, the principles of consent and safety, and the responsible channeling of sacred sexual power.

It is a true honor to pass on the insights I have acquired to a new generation of practitioners. I hope that this marks the beginning of many such mentorships. In the meantime, I invite you to support Domina Delphi and to consider joining us for our Double Domme Training sessions. You can sign up for more information and to participate HERE.




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09.20.24

Blog #18— Locktober & All Things Chastity


A deep dive into chastity training & my personalized Locktober Program. 

Locktober is a fantastic opportunity for anyone curious about extended chastity play. However, it’s not for the faint of heart. Those who commit to a full month of chastity often attest to the challenges and benefits that come with it. In this post, I’ll explore the pros and cons of chastity, along with my personalized Locktober training program to guide you through this journey.

The Pros of Chastity


On the surface, handing over the key to your cage is an intense act of erotic surrender, submission, and trust. But on a deeper level, it represents a commitment to both psychological and physical denial. The weight of the cage serves as a constant reminder of the power you’ve surrendered to your keyholder.

From my experience, chastity can enhance a submissive's connection to their body & their dominant. The denial often leads to increased productivity, allowing you to focus on work and other goals rather than getting lost in cycles of instant gratification. Many find that the cage heightens desires, turning them on while postponing climax, which can deepen your devotion and connection to your dominant.

The Cons of Chastity


However, Locktober isn’t without its challenges. Long-distance chastity can become a logistical nightmare if not approached thoughtfully. One key aspect is managing expectations. It’s easy to fall into the fantasy of being locked all month and underestimate the complexities involved.

Chastity cages require regular maintenance for health reasons. Cleaning is crucial to avoid issues like blisters, which can form during extended wear. Bathroom breaks can be particularly tricky, especially for submissives wearing chastity belts, necessitating more on/off time for hygiene. Other potential challenges include wearing cages during exercise, work, or navigating relationship commitments, as well as dealing with ill-fitting cages that can cause pinching or sores.

My Personalized Locktober Program


This Locktober, I’m excited to offer a personalized chastity training program for $1,200. Here’s what you can expect:
  • Initial Consultation: We’ll have a video call to discuss your chastity cage, key options (i.e., sending me a key, and you keeping a key for maintenance/emergencies), accountability, expectations, and logistics for the month ahead.
  • Daily Check-Ins: Stay motivated with daily updates on your progress.
  • Weekly Assignments: Receive tasks designed to enhance your experience.
  • Weekly Video Call Sessions: At the end of each week, we’ll check in on your progress, make necessary cage adjustments, discuss hygiene and health, and explore the emotional effects of your journey.

My goal is to help you maximize the benefits of chastity while minimizing potential roadblocks. With sustainability in mind, now is the perfect time to challenge yourself and embrace something new.

Interested? Grab your cages & schedule your initial consultation by emailing me at Serve.Sunmi@gmail.com. Let’s make this Locktober unforgettable!




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08.14.24

Blog #17 — The Art of Surrender: Finding Catharsis Through Bondage


Surrender is an art that is often easier said than done.


In my professional practice, I frequently encounter individuals seeking catharsis—a profound sense of release or relief from their burdens. Catharsis can manifest in various ways, and for many of my submissives, the journey toward it is deeply personal and multifaceted.

For some, the catharsis they seek is emotional. These individuals might be grappling with stress from work, guilt about their desires, or feelings of loneliness. Their quest for relief is often an attempt to reconcile these emotions and find peace.

Others are drawn to the physical aspect of catharsis. They crave the sensation of being drained, grounded, or experiencing an intense, out-of-body pleasure. For them, the physicality of bondage offers a unique form of liberation and release.

Then there are those who seek mental catharsis. They may be overwhelmed by a relentless inner voice, anxiety about their behavior, or constant worry about whether they're saying the right things. For these individuals, bondage serves as a means to quiet the mind and find clarity.

The beauty of bondage lies in its ability to facilitate these various forms of catharsis. As a dominant, I view bondage not just as a practice, but as an extension of myself—my touch, my connection to my submissives during our sessions.

In my approach to dominance, bondage becomes a powerful form of communication. It speaks to the submissive’s body and mind in ways that words alone cannot. My bondage tells a story:
  • “Your wrists will remain bound behind your back until I choose to release you.” This is a declaration of control and trust.
  • “You will not close your legs; this is exactly how I want you.” It is a statement of precise intention, hungry desire and unwavering authority.
  • “Your only task is to surrender, to give in, and to obey.” It emphasizes the act of letting go and yielding to the experience.
  • “Here is your body; I will support you even when you are exhausted from holding yourself.” It is an assurance of safety and care, even in moments of vulnerability.

In essence, bondage offers a structured environment where the submissive can explore their deepest desires and find the catharsis they so deeply deserve. Through the art of surrender, they can achieve a profound sense of release and connection, facilitated by my intuitive skillful touch and control.

For those seeking to understand or explore this dynamic, remember that surrender is not simply about relinquishing control; it’s about finding a space where you can truly be yourself and experience the profound relief that comes with it.
© Mistrix Sunmi 2025

MISTRIX SUNMI
2025