Blog #27— Anal Prep & Anal Training For Beginners

So you want to try pegging? Here’s a complete beginners guide.

So, You're a Backdoor Virgin?

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Every year, I take dozens of pegging virginities. Many submissives want to explore anal play at some point in their journey. And why not? Anal play can be amazing for anyone—after all, everyone has an asshole!

In this post, I’ll use the term pegging synonymously with strap-on anal play for simplicity.

Why Are People Nervous?

It’s common for subs to be nervous when considering anal play with a Pro Domme. The most frequent concerns I hear are:

Fear that it will hurt
Fear of making a mess (aka #2)

As a professional strap-slinger, I’ve helped guide many subs through their first anal experience successfully. But if you’re an overachiever and want to do your homework, read this blog post carefully and follow along:

ANAL PREP

There’s a lot of advice out there about how to prepare for anal play, but the truth is: what works best can vary from person to person. The key is to try different methods ahead of time so you’re comfortable and confident before your session.

Diet

Myth: Starving yourself before a session guarantees a clean butt.
Truth: Big no-no.

You must eat and hydrate before our session. Light meals—like smoothies with high fiber—are ideal. You need proper fuel to regulate your blood sugar, stay calm, and avoid fainting.

What you do need is FIBER.
Fiber helps ensure you’re clean and can prevent hemorrhoids. Take fiber supplements daily (like psyllium husk or Metamucil), probiotics, and increase your fiber intake the day before the session. Learn more about high fiber foods for meal inspo HERE.

Stretching

Solo anal play is strongly recommended before losing your pegging virginity.

I require my subs to try inserting a finger into their own butt during masturbation. This helps you learn how to breathe and relax your external and internal sphincters. You’ll be able to feel it on your finger- tighten and relax. Experienced bottoms have great control over these muscles—think of it like learning to ride a bike.

Tips:

Always use lube (water-based, silicone, or even Crisco).
Breathe deeply and go slowly.
Anal play should NOT hurt. If you feel pain or tearing, stop. Pull out, breathe, add more lube, and only continue if you feel safe and comfortable.

Butt plugs are great for getting used to the sensation of being stretched or “stuffed.” Always use a toy with a flared base. I recommend starting with a small, tapered plug. I recommend ones shaped like THIS ONE for extended, multi-hour wear.

When it comes to stretching / training, start smaller than you think. Don’t go to the sex shop and buy a 7 in dildo and expect that to fit first try. Start super small, and then work yourself up in small increments. Get smooth, slightly curved body safe toys. As anal toys w/ ridges or veins may be uncomfortable for new subs. I personally LOVE the njoy steel wands and plugs for anal SEE HERE.

Enemas

There are different parts of the rectum. For most anal play, we only need to clean out the anal canal, a few inches deep. This means a shallow enema using a bulb is usually enough.

Deep enemas (using a bucket or bag with 15+ oz of water or more) are only necessary if we’re going deep into the sigmoid colon—which is NOT needed for most pegging.

⚠️ If you’re new to anal play and hiring a dominatrix, DO NOT do a deep enema right before your session.
Why? Sometimes water from a deep enema doesn’t fully flush out before your session. Then, during play, it can come rushing out—along with loose stool. Not ideal. This happens more than you’d think.

When this occurs, I often hear, “But Mistress, I promise I cleaned beforehand!”
The issue is usually too deep of an enema and incomplete purging.

Timing

Here’s how to time your prep:

Eat high-fiber foods and supplements all week.
On session day:
- Do a shallow or deep enema 12-10 hrs prior to the session.
- Drink plenty of water.
- Eat light meals: smoothies, berries, prunes, bran flakes.
- Avoid eating for at least 1-2 hrs before session.
1hr-30 minutes before the session:
- Do a shallow enema with warm water (NOT laxative water).
- Check by fingering your own butt—if it feels clean, great. If not, do one more shallow flush.
- Don’t overdo it! Over-cleaning can strip the natural mucosal lining, making the area dry, more tear-prone, and less pleasurable.
Shower thoroughly, and clean your butt with soap.
Bonus points if you shave your butt/genitals.

OVERALL TAKE AWAYS

Anal is intimate. It’s erotic, and exciting. It is a lot of people’s ultimate fantasy to have their asshole dominated. So practice at home beforehand.

Ultimately this guide is to give you the tools to feel more at ease, and more confident going into your first pegging session. Speaking for myself- shit happens. It’s not the end of the world if you are a little dirty, or you make mistakes cleaning yourself out. That’s why I wear latex in session, and I always lay down puppy pads. But a good clean ass and self practice will help both of us enjoy the pegging MUCH more. Set yourself up for success and follow these instructions. When you’re ready to be anally dominated in safe professional hands, apply HERE. And as always, aftercare post anal play is super important. So go eat a big meal after, shower, jerk off, & get good sleep. Mistress’ orders.