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INSIDE THE MIND
12.03.21
AVN demonetizing & my reflections on the realities of being a professional dominatrix navigating the digital sphere.
Blog #3 — Wh*re Realities
AVN demonetizing & my reflections on the realities of being a professional dominatrix navigating the digital sphere.
11.02.21
Deep dive into what it means (to me) to be a femme daddy. How I gender-play with respect to the trans community, & how I gender-play with my diverse clientele.
Blog #2 — Playing with Gender
Deep dive into what it means (to me) to be a femme daddy. How I gender-play with respect to the trans community, & how I gender-play with my diverse clientele.
10.11.21
An exploration into some of my kink roots... this particular story marks when I realized cash turned me on.
Blog #1 — The Humble Beginnings Of My Cash Fetish
An exploration into some of my kink roots... this particular story marks when I realized cash turned me on.
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08.11.25
Blog #25— Why I Love Taking Kink Virginities
& Why you may see a Professional for your first time.
First of all - I’m a big pervert. Secondly, for me kink feels like the only place I get to share real human intimacy with others. Stripper raw and open, it’s so vulnerable and REAL to feel a new sub kneeling at my feet for the first time.
I know what it feels like to be a new client. I feel that way everything I go to the strip club or schedule w/ a new doctor. The nerves, the worries, the excitement, the mystery, the knowing you’ll be changed after. The anticipation & erotic energy that builds. It’s so intoxicating.
As a prodomme I am LOTS of people’s first entry into BDSM. Typically these people have had erotic submissive fantasies rolling around in their brains since they were young. But to bring those fantasies to LIFE. Now that’s a whole different level of novelty.
I feel the rush too. When I have a BDSM or often, pegging & power exchange virgin on my hands- I can empathize & feed of their energy. I can smell their fear & excitement. It makes me high with power and feminine lust. I grow feral w/ the innocent sub who doesn’t even KNOW what pleasures await them.
It’s very powerful to hold the ability to change someone’s sex forever. Heels and leather and chains and red lipstick will never be the same. Vanilla sex will pale in comparison - since I have a 100% success rate at prostate milking, I often get both novice subs and experienced subs leave my sessions in shock because they had never felt a Dominatrix literally forced them to cum from the inside, sometimes even (consensually) against their will. Which takes both physical & psychological dominance to accomplish.
I have a gift on this earth. & I use my tools of domination, sadism, hedonism, perversion, bondage technique, and more to train subs up - slowly taking all of their virginities over time. Every session often exposing them to kinks they never thought would now drive them crazy.
It’s a special honor. & lots of people I know have bad early kinky experiences. Wether people laughing at them, break ups, shaming, or being in dangerous experiences - so to be able to be a trust professional provider in a world that for the most part does not understand the submissive psychology or the importance of RACK kink- it’s a mission of mine to make kink fun and safe for everyone who kneels before me. Always has.
Do you have any BDSM virginities you want to loose? If so, list them below. I’ll start, a virginity I still want to loose - is I still have yet to do a scene with two submissive men at once for forced bi, but one day I hope to make that fantasy come to reality. Your turn!
I know what it feels like to be a new client. I feel that way everything I go to the strip club or schedule w/ a new doctor. The nerves, the worries, the excitement, the mystery, the knowing you’ll be changed after. The anticipation & erotic energy that builds. It’s so intoxicating.
As a prodomme I am LOTS of people’s first entry into BDSM. Typically these people have had erotic submissive fantasies rolling around in their brains since they were young. But to bring those fantasies to LIFE. Now that’s a whole different level of novelty.
I feel the rush too. When I have a BDSM or often, pegging & power exchange virgin on my hands- I can empathize & feed of their energy. I can smell their fear & excitement. It makes me high with power and feminine lust. I grow feral w/ the innocent sub who doesn’t even KNOW what pleasures await them.
It’s very powerful to hold the ability to change someone’s sex forever. Heels and leather and chains and red lipstick will never be the same. Vanilla sex will pale in comparison - since I have a 100% success rate at prostate milking, I often get both novice subs and experienced subs leave my sessions in shock because they had never felt a Dominatrix literally forced them to cum from the inside, sometimes even (consensually) against their will. Which takes both physical & psychological dominance to accomplish.
I have a gift on this earth. & I use my tools of domination, sadism, hedonism, perversion, bondage technique, and more to train subs up - slowly taking all of their virginities over time. Every session often exposing them to kinks they never thought would now drive them crazy.
It’s a special honor. & lots of people I know have bad early kinky experiences. Wether people laughing at them, break ups, shaming, or being in dangerous experiences - so to be able to be a trust professional provider in a world that for the most part does not understand the submissive psychology or the importance of RACK kink- it’s a mission of mine to make kink fun and safe for everyone who kneels before me. Always has.
Do you have any BDSM virginities you want to loose? If so, list them below. I’ll start, a virginity I still want to loose - is I still have yet to do a scene with two submissive men at once for forced bi, but one day I hope to make that fantasy come to reality. Your turn!
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07.08.25
Blog #24— Why I Love Forced Femme
& Why you may too.
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Gender play in kink is fun & Liberating.
I force femme a lot .. A LOT of people. It’s so interesting how my cis male clients love it, & my trans femme AND trans masc clients love it too.
It’s a beautiful thing that it feels erotic and fun no matter what, you can always be MORE of a femme bimbo slut. Kink is a fun & theatrical way to process emotions/feelings about gender. Whether it’s being an object & not having a gender, or being a fun abstract exaggerated version of a fuck toy.
Forced femme is ultimately playing in conversation with misogyny & flipping it on its head. We all live in a world where women are hyper sexualized, objectified, fetishized. Being a femme fuck doll wouldn’t be as hot or liberating or humiliating or fun if the world didn’t hyper sexualize women.
Forced femme is also fun because in relation to my sub my gender also morphes too. I often then playing the fantasy role of being the Daddy or John or Husband or the Boss - w/ my “male” entitlement & horny cock on- I’m also playing w/ misogyny & gender.
I also think it’s hot when my male subs know I like femmes & dykes - so they want me to fuck them like I fuck my girlfriends. It’s sexually charging to feel like you are the object of someone’s desire.
Everyone wants to feel sexually desired & accepted.
& I love making my subs FEEL like sex objects. & morphing them into my perfect human pocket pussies. Actual gender aside - to me, you’re always a hole & always a good nasty girl. 💋
I write more about forced femme & what it means for us to to play with gender (& misogyny) & personal responsibility (especially for cis men) in a blog I wrote back in 2021. Read HERE.
Kink often has to do w/ us confronting our unconscious fears / traumas / desires. & toxic masculinity is so policed and rigid- so forced femme can feel like freedom. Maybe you’ve spent your whole life trying not to be perceived as a “sissy” so now it’s relieving. Or you’re trans masc, and you’ve been trying to be perceived as masculine, & you miss these feminine sides. Or maybe forced femme even affirms your gender - and you want to always be & feel AS FEMME as possible. (We loveeee).
And YET. Sex & kink are just fun. & sex can just be pleasure for pleasure sake. We don’t have to have a reason to like kinks or justify them or have trauma or over think them. I’m just a sex nerd with two psychology degrees who thinks gender & kink are very interesting. But if it makes you happy that’s all that matters!
Are you ready to give forced feminization a try? Apply HERE.
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06.18.25
Blog #23— Get To Know Mistrix Sunmi
Curious About Me? Get to know some intimate details about Me.
Who Is Mistrix Sunmi?
Mysterious? Serious? Funny?
It’s hard to truly get a feel for someone through a single ad, tweet, or blog post. Whether you’ve just discovered me or you're a devoted sub who already knows me well, this is a little window into who I am—a fun and personal introduction.
A Bit of My Cosmic Code
I’m a Taurus sun, Libra moon, and Virgo rising. Earthy, balanced, and always seeking order—yes, I absolutely live up to the astrology if you know you know.
Movement Is My Meditation
I’m a lifestyle Domme as much as I am a professional one. Physicality is central to who I am. I love long-distance running, biking, skateboarding, skiing, rollerskating, and surfing. If I can move my body, I’m happy.
I also went through a 35mm film photography phase, which taught me a lot about the art of capturing images—and, in turn, about modeling. Those skills still come in handy.
Music Is My Everything
Music has been a lifelong passion. Dance has been a lifelong joy. I spent my teen years at basement punk shows, summer festivals, and traveling to see my favorite bands live. A couple years ago, I picked up the electric guitar to deepen my relationship with music. These days, you’ll find me strumming sweet, cheesy beginner love songs—and loving every second of it.
Brain Food
I’m an avid reader, especially drawn to memoirs and books about death, dying, grief, the funeral industry, and global death traditions. It’s not as morbid as it sounds—there’s a profound beauty in how cultures honor life and loss. I lost my childhood best friend in a sudden death when we were 21, and her absence in my life changed my entire life tragectory.
Memoirs, especially, resonate with me because I’ve always been deeply interested in people. I crave real conversations, not small talk. I’ve never been one for shallow relationships—quality over quantity, always. That’s also why I love kink: it opens a space to explore deep, intimate truths and desires. It's about vulnerability, trust, transformation.
Yes, I’m Type A—And Proud
A friend once said, “Sunmi, you’re the most Type A person I know.” I laughed, but they’re not wrong.
I’m a clean freak. I like things done my way. I have high standards—for myself and my subs. I’m detail-oriented, meticulous, observant, and consistent. I fiercely protect my peace.
And yet, I’m also wholesome, kind, generous, goofy, and funny in my own way. I love people who can laugh with me and keep up with my standards.
A Forever Curious Mind
I love nerding out—on BDSM, kink gear, death, psychology, and more. With my ADHD, I’m always exploring new skills and hobbies to keep my brain engaged and my energy flowing.
I’m at my best when I’m using my hands or moving my body. That’s why rope and leather bondage, sissy training, electro, and single tails are some of my all-time favorite activities. They’re physical, emotional, sensual, and creative—just like me.
So, whether you’re here out of curiosity or deep devotion, welcome.
Want to get to know me more? Start bulding a D/s so I can now get to know YOU by apply HERE to play.
Still curious? Watch this youtube interview by Mistress Blunt, where we discuss all things being a femdom Daddy, my journey in the industry, and more. (Watch HERE)
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04.07.25
Blog #22— BiCostal Move
Bay Area & DC News!
I’m thrilled to share some exciting news: I’ll be relocating my home base from NYC to the Bay Area!
What Does This Mean for the Bay Area?
Starting mid-June, my books will open for in-person sessions in both San Francisco and Oakland. I can’t wait to connect with new and familiar faces on the West Coast.
What About DC Subs?
Good news—nothing changes for DC! Since moving to NYC, I’ve been touring DC every 4–8 weeks, and that routine will continue. DC remains my East Coast home base, so you can still expect me there once a month or every other month.
What About NYC Subs?
My NYC availability will decrease significantly. I’ll aim to visit every few months, but for those who can’t wait:
- FMTY to NYC is still an option.
- Or, you’re welcome to visit me during my DC tours if you'd like to see me sooner.
FAQ: Why the Move to California?
While I love NYC—and I’m grateful for the incredible friends and subs I’ve met here—it’s simply not a sustainable home for me long-term. After a year, I’ve realized I need a change of pace and energy, and the Bay Area feels like the right move.
©MistrixSunmi 2025
©MistrixSunmi 2025